Accepting my hair texture

Hello there!

Let me introduce myself: I am Whitney a daydreamer from Rotterdam, the Netherlands. My passions are blogging, photography and shopping. In November 2013 I started blogging for a Dutch website focused on women,  One month later I decided to start my fashion blog, WhitneyFromTheBlogue. In May my friend, Caressa, and I decided to share our passion for hair with the world on here.

At the age of 5 I got that white gunk in my hair which affected the texture of my hair immediately. My mother was tired of me hiding in the garden whenever I had to wash my hair. She relaxed her hair as well and she thought it was the best solution. When moving from Curacao to Rotterdam I was surrounded by people with straight hair. Nevertheless, I noticed a few people who were wearing their hair curly and I remember me thinking their hair was beautiful.


One day maturity started kicking in; I was 18 and sick and tired of applying relaxer to my hair. I started developing strong views and beliefs and one of them was that I want others to accept me for the real me, the natural me. Around that time, an increasing amount of people decided to transition. My surrounding was not happy with my decision; my mother told me that I would damage my hair a lot. “Mom, I do not know my hair, but I will learn from scratch”, I responded. My mom and I were basically throwing arguments to each other, until I decided to stop. I knew she would learn from my experience as well.

This year I noticed that my curls were becoming smaller and my hair shorter. At that point I started being unhappy with my curls. This resulted in a lack of self confidence. Then I started thinking: Why was this happening to me? Where did this insecurity come from?


I decided to go back in time and realized that my self confidence regarding my hair was affected at that very moment I got my hair relaxed. As a child I developed the thought that my natural hair was ugly. When growing up I saw people being bullied because of their hair texture and that all stayed with me. There I knew what caused my insecurity, so it was time for me to work on it!

I normally always wear my hair in a bun; because of the weather circumstances in the Netherlands…Frizz is guaranteed.  However, I decided to learn embrace my hair by wearing my curls down no matter what. Guess what? This was the best idea ever! I am now walking around proudly with my curly fro. To summarize, Texture does not define the beauty of your hair, but its health does.



The 101 on hair porosity

If you’re grappling with what exactly hair porosity is, don’t worry. You’re not the only one. I just recently discovered what hair porosity is myself and what the porosity of my hair is. Knowing your hair’s porosity will help you make better product purchasing decisions, adapt your regimen accordingly and all around have a better understanding of how porosity and natural hair works.


So, what exactly is hair porosity?
It’s your hair’s ability to absorb and retain moisture, e.g. water. Hair porosity is genetic but it can change due to excessive heat treatments and/or other chemical processes that are done on your hair. Knowing my hair’s porosity made it a lot more easier to shop for (new) products and it gave me a little bit more insight on my hair.


How do you determine your hair’s porosity?
Your hair can be low, medium or high porosity and it is very easy to find out what it is. You will need a glass/bowl of water and drop some of your hair strands in there. Wait a few minutes to see the results. If your hair strands keep floating, your hair is low porosity and if it sinks all the way down, it is high porosity. Somewhere in the middle, your hair is medium porosity.



Low porosity
If your hair is low porosity, it means that it does not absorb moisture easily. Low porosity hair is for the most part considered healthy because the hair cuticles lay flat. The best products for low porosity hair should be water based, e.g. leave in conditioners rather than butters/creams. Also, moisturizing deep conditioners are more effective than protein deep conditioners.


Medium porosity
The hair cuticle of medium porosity hair is slightly opened, which makes it easier to take care of than low porosity hair. It absorbs moisture faster but also retains it. Moisturizing deep conditioners are the best for medium porosity but once in a while it can benefit from a protein deep conditioner.


High porosity
High porosity, is most of the time, considered as damaged hair but as said before, hair porosity is genetic, so it can also be inherent. The hair cuticles are completely open, moisture comes in very easy but also leaves the hair very fast, making the hair frizzy and dry looking. Leave-in conditioners are best to bring moisture in the hair and sealing with a butter or cream to keep that moisture in. Protein deep conditioners can make the hair less porous but not too much because it does not replace the moisture that the hair needs, it only repairs the damaged parts in the cuticles temporarily.


By determining my hair’s porosity, it suddenly became clear to me why almost all the new butter and creams I try do not work for my hair, since my hair is low porosity. There are a few that don’t weigh my hair down and give me good moisture but I mainly use leave in conditioners. Stay tuned for more tips on taking for low porosity hair!


Video: How to prepare and apply henna

Check out my video which explains how to prepare and apply henna on your hair.
Thumbs up if you like it.

A couple of months ago, Caressa shared the effects of henna on her hair (type 3a/3b). But will it be as effective on 3c and 4a type of hair?

I decided to give it a try, because my hair really needs some help when it comes to damage recovery. I was not able to go out of my house without arriving at work with lots of frizz on my hair (But maybe I was worrying too much about frizz).  But there were more things which encouraged me to do the henna treatment:

    • My hair was incredibly brittle
    • My hair was lustreless
    • The texture of my hair was incredibly heavy. Consequently, I was spending at least an hour in the bathroom detangling my hair (Changes of breakage were high)
    • I wanted to color my hair, without applying chemicals

So what were the main advantages for me?

    • I was able to color my hair, without adding chemicals. My hair is now dark brownish
    • The texture of my hair slightly reduced, making my curls manageable
    • I have less frizz

What were the disadvantages of henna treatment to me?

    • Washing the henna out was hell. I wasted lots of products, because it was almost impossible to wash the grains of the mixture out of my hair.
    • The result was slightly beyond expectations, I was relying on it to solve my frizz problems
  • My bathroom was a mess afterwards; it was a pain in the ass to clean it up.

This is my selfie of the morning after the treatment: